Assertive

Assertion possesses with four behavior characteristics; openness and directness, honesty and appropriateness. You may be deficient in any or all three of these areas, but often you lack assertion in just one,

fist- Indirect communication. You tend to be wordy, a characteristic often accompanied by shallowness of feeling, lack of clear-cut desires, and difficulty with close relationships. You usually don't make the direct request, you expect others know what you want, and lastly you don't get what you want.

Second- Dishonest or pseudo assertive communication. You seem to be open and honest, generally appropriate, opten extroverted, but this seeming assertiveness hides a basic lack of honesty. You may say, "It's so good to see you-I've been thinking about you for week".
Others within this category have problems with closeness and a general lack of satisfaction in life.

Third- In appropriate communication. Unknowledgeable about the realities of social relations, you say what you think is the right thing at the wrong time. For example, your spouse tells you of his or her " terrible day at the office," and in response, you offer a list of things he/she did wrong. You may be open and honest, but the naive and immature way in which you speak up usually leads to numerous interpersonal difficulties, creating a distance from people rather than closeness. At work, your inappropriateness produces dissension and disruption. Because you say the wrong thing at the wrong time, you may leave yourself open to exploitation or hurt. This insensitivity to others often leads to self-centered behavior and a disregard for needs of co-workers, friends or family.